Addiction isn’t about substances. It’s about connection.
This blog explores addiction through a different lens, one that shifts the focus away from substances and toward connection.
Drawing on the Rat Park study and modern neuroscience, it examines how environments of isolation, chronic stress, and disconnection shape nervous system regulation, and why substances can become a stand-in for safety and relief. It also looks at what happens when we change the conditions around addiction, including real-world examples where connection, dignity, and community led to better outcomes.
At its core, this blog invites a reframe: Addiction is not a moral failing or lack of willpower, but often a nervous system adaptation to unmet relational needs.
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Ageing, mindset, and the body: How belief shapes movement, metabolism, and health
What if ageing, exercise, and eating weren’t just about discipline, but about mindset and nervous system safety?
This blog explores compelling research showing how belief shapes physical capacity, metabolism, and health, and why shifting the story we tell about our bodies can lead to meaningful physiological change.
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You’re not going backwards, your nervous system is responding: Understanding plateaus, flare-ups, and “regression” through a nervous-system lens
“I thought I was past this.”
When old patterns resurface, it can feel like failure, but from a nervous system perspective, it’s often a sign of response, not regression. This blog explores why healing isn’t linear, why flare-ups happen, and how understanding your nervous system can reduce shame and support sustainable change.
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Why safety comes before change: A nervous-system explanation for why pushing harder often backfires
Why doesn’t change happen, even when we know what we want to shift?
This blog explores why safety, not effort or motivation, is the foundation for change, and how the nervous system prioritises protection over growth. A neuroscience-informed look at why pushing harder often backfires, and what actually helps change unfold.
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Your brain is an algorithm: A neuroscience-informed take on change
Change doesn’t happen because we think harder, it happens when the nervous system updates what it expects.
This blog explores a neuroscience-informed perspective on change, reframing “manifesting” as the brain’s adaptive algorithm rather than a mindset problem. A compassionate look at why insight alone isn’t enough and what actually supports sustainable change.
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How trauma corrupts our brain + body: The real score
Trauma is ubiquitous in our society. It is estimated that 75% of Australians will experience a potentially traumatic event in their lifetime. That 1 in 4 Australian women will experience violence by an intimate partner, and that 1 in 5 women will experience sexual violence. It’s estimated that up to two thirds of young people have been exposed to at least one traumatic event by the time they turn 16! And that 1 in 8 Australian’s have experienced child abuse.
These statistics are alarming and what many of us don’t realise is that these experiences leave traces on our biology and identity, with devastating social consequences. In fact, the Center for Disease Control and Prevention calculate that childhood trauma is our single largest public health issue—more costly than cancer or heart disease—and one that is largely preventable by early prevention and intervention. So what is trauma? And what is its true cost?
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Burnout: It's more harmful than you think!
Have you suffered from burnout, or do you feel like you’re on the cusp of it? I know that I’ve definitely been there. And the questions we need to ask ourselves is this: If we keep making the same choices, returning to the same stressors that led to burnout in the first place, will we ever truly recover? And what is the real price that burnout is costing us?
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Are you really a recovered perfectionist?
If you’ve ever uttered the words “I’m a recovered perfectionist”, you’re not alone. This is a line I hear a LOT! I know
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Failure to Launch: How to move past procrastination
When I was about to launch The Sage Society, do you know what my Dad said to me… He said, “90% of all businesses
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Are you a secret perfectionist?
I’d be willing to hazard a guess that if you’re reading this, it’s more than likely that you are. And I’d also be willing to
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How to forgive ourselves
Forgiveness, to me, means intentionally letting go of the blame and anger that encases your heart. It is about turning
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How to tackle loneliness in the time of Corona
So here we all are, in lockdown, isolation or extreme social distancing mode. At first, it may have seemed to some, a
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Managing fear and the Coronavirus
I don’t think anyone around the globe is not acutely aware of the obvious: Covid-19, (aka Coronavirus) is scary and it’s
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The Harmful Side of Worry
I never thought of myself of a worrier but about 15 years ago a colleague of mine noted that I was thinking 20 steps
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Understanding addiction
Addiction is the one disorder I have always struggled to treat. Over my years as a Clinical Psychologist, treating an
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The trouble with body image
I would be lying if I said that I have never struggled with my body image. The relationship that I have with my body is
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Are we afraid of silence?
My husband recently bought me the book, “Stillness Is The Key” by Ryan Holiday, proclaiming that this was something
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How your childhood can predict your health
** This blog comes with a trigger warning. I discuss trauma and the detrimental effects it can have on your lifetime
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‘Guilty’ Pleasures - why we should be embracing them and letting go of the guilt
I don’t know about you, but much to my husband’s displeasure, I love those TV shows. You know the ones, the shows
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Why climate change is taking a toll on our mental health
Whether you choose to believe the mass of scientific evidence about global warming or not, from a health
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