Posts in Mind & Emotions
Addiction isn’t about substances. It’s about connection.

This blog explores addiction through a different lens, one that shifts the focus away from substances and toward connection.

Drawing on the Rat Park study and modern neuroscience, it examines how environments of isolation, chronic stress, and disconnection shape nervous system regulation, and why substances can become a stand-in for safety and relief. It also looks at what happens when we change the conditions around addiction, including real-world examples where connection, dignity, and community led to better outcomes.

At its core, this blog invites a reframe: Addiction is not a moral failing or lack of willpower, but often a nervous system adaptation to unmet relational needs.

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You’re not going backwards, your nervous system is responding: Understanding plateaus, flare-ups, and “regression” through a nervous-system lens

“I thought I was past this.”
When old patterns resurface, it can feel like failure, but from a nervous system perspective, it’s often a sign of response, not regression. This blog explores why healing isn’t linear, why flare-ups happen, and how understanding your nervous system can reduce shame and support sustainable change.

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Your brain is an algorithm: A neuroscience-informed take on change

Change doesn’t happen because we think harder, it happens when the nervous system updates what it expects.

This blog explores a neuroscience-informed perspective on change, reframing “manifesting” as the brain’s adaptive algorithm rather than a mindset problem. A compassionate look at why insight alone isn’t enough and what actually supports sustainable change.

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How trauma corrupts our brain + body: The real score

Trauma is ubiquitous in our society. It is estimated that 75% of Australians will experience a potentially traumatic event in their lifetime. That 1 in 4 Australian women will experience violence by an intimate partner, and that 1 in 5 women will experience sexual violence. It’s estimated that up to two thirds of young people have been exposed to at least one traumatic event by the time they turn 16! And that 1 in 8 Australian’s have experienced child abuse. 

These statistics are alarming and what many of us don’t realise is that these experiences leave traces on our biology and identity, with devastating social consequences. In fact, the Center for Disease Control and Prevention calculate that childhood trauma is our single largest public health issue—more costly than cancer or heart disease—and one that is largely preventable by early prevention and intervention. So what is trauma? And what is its true cost?

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